The first sign of trouble at home is rarely a fall you hear about. It is a bruise she mentions as if it were a joke, a rug that has moved, or a chair pulled closer to the wall than it used to be. These details are easy to dismiss from far away, and easy to miss even in the house, because she has usually already explained them.

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The small injuries worth writing down

Listen for a bruise on a shin or hip with no clear cause, a new scrape on a hand, or a cut she says came from the kitchen drawer. Notice whether she mentions the same body part more than once in a month. A single bruise tells you little. Two or three in the same place, described slightly differently each time, is worth a question.

The changes in how the house is used

Ask a local person to look for a rug that has been moved or folded back, a cord run across the path to the bathroom, a walking aid left in a different room, or shoes she used to wear now sitting in the closet. These are not proof of anything. They show you where her steps have changed.

Ask about the story, not just the answer

When she gives you an explanation, ask one specific follow-up. Ask which hand she used to get up, what the floor was like, or what she was doing just before it happened. Vague answers that shift between calls are the detail to track. You are not testing her memory. You are collecting what the day looked like.

What to do tonight

Write down the injuries she has mentioned lately, in your own words, with what she said about each. Ask one specific follow-up on the next call. If a local person can visit, ask them to check the path from her bed to the bathroom and report back in one sentence.

What to leave with the doctor

Bring the list of injuries and changes you noticed, with what she said about each. Ask the doctor which of these details matter for her, whether her walking and balance should be checked, and whether any of her medicines are worth raising with the prescriber. Those questions belong to the doctor and her pharmacist, not to you to answer.

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